Words for losses

These are some words from an old article i wrote that I believe help in soothing the pain at times of loss - 'Things that you love are not always the things that stay with you forever. But they are those that remind you of good times, a hope for living, and the cheer of life. They let you know that you've been lucky to have them, experience them and make them a part of your life. As much as it’s hard it makes us peaceful to try to live with the memories in all its positivity’s and move on. After all, the Joy of Life is in looking forward to happier days, lovelier moments.'

When we are faced with horrid situations like deaths of loved ones, we have only two things to choose to do further on ... one is to be doomed and spoil our peace, and spread that negativity to everything and everyone around, breaking our life's prior goals OR to accept the bad that happened and feel unfair - we are human and i can imagine how hard it must be - but still try to work on other things that will make peace for us and the rest of our loved ones and help us move on. This act doesn't make us cold-hearted but the sadness and strength we grow within to overcome the pain makes us warm, considerate and stronger.

   There is no loss like the loss of loved ones and that's the lesson and purpose from such a situation. You need to re purpose your life at such tough situations. Realize the significance of your dear ones, and work for the rest of such dear ones in your life. Pray for the soul to rest in peace and live for their wishes. What would they like for you to do? Would they want to see you happy? Live to live the life they would have loved to. That's the best tribute you can pay. Harder said than done, but its important for you to gather the strength.

 I pray for all of you in such hard times and wish you the best to move on strong.

A poem - http://thethoughtsofthestar.blogspot.in/2013/10/pray-for-bereaved_18.html

Pray for the bereaved

The demise of an unknown soul
Makes me cry for days so many
A young heart with dreams and desires
Plucked out of life, suddenly with no closure
My thoughts go out to the friends and family
And my talks go on to the supposed almighty
My belief and hope tend to fluctuate rapidly
I gather myself and remember there is only one way to harmony.
So I decide to pray
For more than light from a single ray
I pray for peace and
A world with no disease
I pray to whoever is the Lord;
I pray very hard.
For I want to believe -
When the sun rises
And the birds are flying -
There is no one in the world, bereaved and crying.

-Shwetha

With time?

Worries they say, fall with time.

But what if they grow sharper like the spikes in a porcupine?

Prayers they say, make everything fine.

But what if god never heard me ring the chime?

Hurt they say heals with soothing words. 

But what if there's no one to hear my outbursts?

Pains they say alleviate with every passing day. 

But what if I don't ever find the right way?

Trying times they say are close to change. 

But what if it’s all, for bad karma that we are paying?

- Shwetha

If these words makes you think 'what a killjoy', I'll remind you again I am a believer of Hope. There is no light without darkness. And there is no enlightment without confusion. Feelings like above that crop up within us are the reason why I wrote this article: www.thethoughtsofthestar.blogspot.in/2013/09/overcome-that-you-can-overcome.html

One learns to be an optimist, only when he has had the chance to be a pessimist but fights, isn't it? 

Overcome that you can Overcome

Sometimes the hardest thing is, not to feel hopeful when you are feeling low; but to not condemn yourself for feeling that hopeful.

We doubt what's wrong with us for not feeling bad; for not feeling guilty when things go wrong; wonder why aren't there tears …  I think most of us are ‘addicted’ to self-pity and find it comforting to tell ourselves 'why is this is happening to me'. So even though good books read to us that we have the power to outcome fears, even though beautifully written songs inspire us to become hopeful, when it actually comes down to feeling positive, hopeful and strong in a situation, a part of us wonders if we've become cold. A scare creeps in if we are being ignorant by not wallowing in the problem. We push ourselves to be sad again because even though we can be strong, we wonder if we are being emotionless.

This is where we need more learning. There is only our own self who can permit happiness within. You have to allow yourself to be strong before you can become strong. You have to let yourself stay positive even though it’s easy to be torn. You have to let yourself be happy even though there is sadness within. You have to let yourself portray happiness in the world even though thoughts may haunt of the world around judging you for being happy when things are down under. You have to do this for YOUR peace of mind; because, Happiness is not a crime; because sadness is not forever; because happiness is a state of mind - not complete absence of sadness; because you can overcome sadness with happiness. And for that to last, you have to ‘overcome that you can overcome your deepest fears’.

- To happiness and peace,

The few in your Life

There are few people in your life;
Who will support through all that you strive.
They won't laugh when you fall. Instead,
They smile and lift you up tall.
They make your trials seem worthy
And guide you how finer you can be.
Critical may be their suggestions
But they only have the right intentions.
The day you win and the world celebrates,
They will rejoice with a silent embrace.

-Shwetha

Happily Ever After - Is it overrated or do we understand it wrong?

Today I read a thought provoking article... 
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2385475/Dina-Goldsteins-Fallen-Princesses-shows-Disneys-Snow-White-Cinderella-unhappily-after.html


'Happily ever after' as in fairy tales is debatable in real life. You can Hope , but you need to be realistic about what you truly need, to be happy in life. 'Cuz what you thought at your teens is going to be the life ahead, may not be the life you later live, but you get led on to new experiences involving unexpected failures and worked hard for successes. You mature naturally to learn to appreciate them. But some may not - my sincere hope for them is to realize this and live life as it comes. This article may help in the realization.

Rain down upon me …

The rain draws a magic

That can't be explained with any logic

As I watch from inside the bus,

The flow of rain water on the large windows,

I find my heart sinking,

Or is it a deep breath that comes prior to a relieving sigh?

I find solace, from a sadness that I wasn't aware existed within me.

A reassuring thought strikes that

the simple joys are the ones that put on a real smile.

But what was I worrying about? I just can’t compile.

That’s the charm of the rain

Just as wondrous, time and again.

The splashes from a walk on a path that’s not drained,

The sprinkles when you bring down the window panes.

Getting drenched in heavy downpours,

The misty drizzles while running to the doors.

The simplest of experiences,

Has the power to liberate us from deep fears.

-Shwetha